Unique gifts: Take 1

If you are looking for a unique gift, this company offers beautiful custom jewelry for baby, mom & dad.

I bought my husband the engraved cuff links with both our children's names on them and their dates of birth....

If your 'guy' isn't into the shirt with cuffs thing...they have dog~tags too.

The company is Julian & Co.

Beautifully made and great customer service.

A gift that anyone will treasure.

'Serenity Now'....

Today I took a trip to Chapter's to decompress as it were and I found myself in the toddler/preschool parent help aisle with other bleary eyed parents looking for anything that would magically give me a solution to help me deal with the monumental tantrum bender that my three and a half year has been on for the last five days.

When he goes into these complete meltdowns he is barely the child I know and love. He yells, screams, throws things, hits, says 'i hate you', 'i don't love you','get out', 'go away' and I am left with the feeling that I have utterly failed as a parent. I know all the experts say don't take it personally but I'm not a robot and words do hurt even when being hurled at you in the throws of a preschool aged tantrum.

The only quote I can away with today that I totally related to was 'I feel like I was a more successful parent before I had children.' [forgive me I can't remember where the quote came from...I went through a lot of books today]. It's true I do. I thought the 'terrible two' were hard but the 3's and 4's are going to kill me I think [OK not literally but you get my overly dramatic point].

I know most parents go though this and for those who don't have kids with any behaviour/temperament issues then I raise a glass of Baby Duck to you. I envy you, even if I think you're lying about your perfectly behaved child [see I have become so damn jaded].

So I'm at a loss. Is it just a spirited child who just doesn't like the word 'no' or is it something more?

I have read everything from give your child Omega 3/fish oil capsules to homeopathic syrups that calm even the most agitated child. Is a change in diet needed? Is it an allergy? Should I ban all sugar from his diet? No ice cream, no chocolate?

I guess I am finding it hard to balance the reality that he is just acting like a normal kid his age to my mind reeling with information overload that there is something not all kosher with the situation. And that scares me...like anxiety/panic attacks scares me.

I've cried more in these last three months than I have since he was born...I guess this is part of my personality that thrives on order and the well mastered plan. And I just can't wrap my head around the fact that parenting is far from a well mastered plan. Every kid is different as is every 'solution'. What works for kid A does not necessarily work for kid B. So no blanket solution, no magic pill.

As I write this my three and a half year old is serving out the end of his day long punishment by going to bed without having his bedtime books read to him by me...and it's killing me. I freely admit that...the follow through is the worst of it for me. And today I followed through on everything...I took toys away, the TV shows and computer time. And I feel like a total ass for doing it. But I also no that empty threats are the worst.

So will he hate me tomorrow? Will he resent me? Probably.

But it's a clean slate.

At least that is something to look forward to in the never ending drama that is the preschool years. Right?

The Man Who Defined My Generation

Why this 30-something chick is going to miss John Hughes [a B Sides blog I wrote for the Yummy Mummy Club].

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Huggies....

Yes for shame I use disposable diapers and not the environmentally-sound-earth-friendly reusable cloth ones...
I beg forgiveness...
Now that my dirty secret is out...

Huggies.

I must say was never a fan of the Huggies when my son was in the diaper wearing stage...he constantly peed out of them, like all the time. All the time.

So I became a Pampers girl.

Cue the birth of my second child and a mommy's search for all things cheaper.
My daughter was a Pampers girl for the first three months and then this mommy discovered the Walmart brand. They did the job just fine thank you and at the end of the day they were a zillion times cheaper...OK, not a zillion but you get the point.

But last Saturday I ran out of diapers and I was not in the 'fight the crowds on a Saturday afternoon' mood so I ran into the nearest Shopper's Drug Mart and bought a package of the new HUGGIES® Little Movers Diapers.

And shock of shocks, I gotta say that I love them. They fit really well; were snug in all the right places with no leaks and the side tabs were super stretchy and stayed put. There is something to be said about the new contour design.

The official sell line? HUGGIES® Little Movers Diapers are shaped to fit busy babies and toddlers as they move and play. Less bulk in front and wider in back for a comfy fit.
And I must say this time there is truth is what is being advertised. My 17 month old daughter, who can't possibly think of sitting still for more than 60 seconds, has been zooming around in them in total toddler comfort.

Not sure if because child #2 was a girl and the peeing out of diapers with a super baby penis doesn't come into play, but I must give the folks at Huggies props where props are due. So props.

This Huggies diaper I will buy again. Who knew?

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Waving the white flag....

I must admit I don't follow too many of the nouveau age parenting skills...ie: the get down to eye level of a preschooler in the midst of a full out tantrum and ask him to discuss his feelings...'Why are you angry? Why are you upset? Let's talk about why your feeling like this?' philosophy.

I'm more of a 'you can scream it out all you want in the comfort of your own room' parenting follower, which is a slight improvement from my dad's back in the day 'so help you if I get to number three and you have yet to stop screaming and crying'. His parenting methodology always worked like a charm. For the record, my dad never got past one and on those really test the limits I'd let my dad get to two but never past two. Must of been that Italian old school upbringing of my dad's and I have to say I turned out pretty well.

But back to the year 2009....

I have discovered that if I start a sentence with any of these conversation starters with my little dramatic preschooler I am at best completely screwed. These words will guarantee that I will be waving the white flag. My little guy may be only 3 and a half but I swear the kid knows how to wear me out...

So here are those tread lightly and use with extreme caution conversation starters...

• "In five minutes OK pumpkin...Mommy just needs five minutes to finish what I am doing, then we can do whatever it is you so desperately want to do."

• "Pumpkin not now Mommy is on the phone..."

• "Pumpkin let's try and keep really quiet. Remember, who is trying to sleep right now?"

• "Pumpkin tomorrow, I promise we'll do that tomorrow."

• "Pumpkin I don't care how loud you yell the answer is no." [this one usually takes place in the grocery store]

• "Pumpkin we're going to have some quiet time right now because Mommy doesn't feel very well/has a headache."

• "Pumpkin Mommy wants to watch her TV show right now OK..."
  

With that being said...Lord give me strength.

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